Default Setting

What does the word “default” really mean? In the English language, the word “default” can be used in many different ways, but the definition I want to explore here is what does the technician mean when he says that your computer or your phone acts in a certain way because that is the default setting. I have learned that in this context.

Default – is the option that is selected automatically unless an alternative is specified

If this is possible with technology could I also create some default settings in my heart?

When I find myself the recipient of disappointment do I default to trust, or do I need to take the long road with stops at the village of doubting the goodness of God, the city of battling God for control or the continent of immobilizing fear?

I remember my first experience of learning to play tennis. I did great for my first two lessons and then not so great on my third. I told my instructor I thought I was getting worse instead of better. She replied that she was just  serving me harder shots to return.

There is no denying that when God gives us the gift of a long life it comes with some pretty tough return shots. This blog is subtitled “faith through aging eyes,” and I wonder if the confession of the aging person needs to be that the battle intensifies and sometimes we resort to the default setting from exhaustion.

What are you doing to make trust your default setting?

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Stay Open to the Holy Spirit

This was the summary advice I was given when I asked a retired pastor who is nearing 90 years old to give me a word of wisdom. He focused on the question and explained further. Let the Spirit guide every detail of your life. Keep open to His words and His ways.

I don’t want to just give a cursory mental nod to this counsel. I want to practice a conversational life style that listens to the Holy Spirit, asks for discernment and thanks Him for allowing me to “catch” Him in acts of provision and protection.

I wonder what His plans are for the New Year.  May it be a year of wonder!

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She Could Have Stayed in Bethlehem

(Though the eyes of a child)

I was having dinner with my two adopted granddaughters. One is 5 and the other is 3. We were all sitting on the floor around a low table eating pizza and some sliced fruit. They call me Besta as that is the Norwegian word for a grandparent.

This day we had planned a sleep over so there was a lot of interest in who would be sleeping where. The upstairs bedroom has been occupied for a few months by a lady who needed a place to live. The arrangements had really not been planned but this lady, whose name is Mary, was suddenly without a home and now I have watched as what started out as a temporary solution seems to be settling in to something more permanent.

Here is the dinner conversation:

“Besta, Why is Mary living with you?”

“I really don’t know”

“Is it because she doesn’t have a home?”

“Yes.”

Then this from the 3 year old, “She could have stayed in Bethlehem with baby Jesus.”

I was silent. Captivated by how the nativity story and the Mary in our home were inseparable in the mind of this 3 year old. Amused that maybe there was another alternative.

My next post will talk about this idea through aging eyes.

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A Prayer after Christmas

Good and Loving God,

This year as I think about all the preparations for Christmas and then acknowledge that, for some, the hopes for the day could not be met, I am remembering the Garden of Eden.

I am so sorry that we broke your heart by not just walking with you there and enjoying everything your heart had prepared for us.

Thank you that your love never stopped flowing toward us. Thank you for breaking into history as a helpless baby so we could have a context for knowing you.

I am sorry that so often I blame you as the cause of the problem when all the while you are working to redeem the story of walking together in the beauty and peace of the garden.

Last week I read that children are captivated by the cradle but for adults the cross is near the cradle.

Thank you for your work on the cross that clears the way for us to walk with you again.

Thank you that by defeating death we know nothing is too hard for you

Thank you for your indwelling Spirit.

May this year be one in which we walk in the wonder of your Presence.

May we not miss the joy you have planned for us and may you know the joy of us being children who love you as the Giver and Gift of Christmas.

Amen

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Time Heals

I am familiar with the phrase “Time Heals” when applied to an ache or pain. Sometimes time is the best medicine. I recently watched as time was the basket in which a different type of healing was delivered. Here is the story.

A person who has suffered much from physical pain, emotional agony, spiritual darkness, and relational disappointment agreed to accept a visit from yet another Christian, but there was something different about this visit. Instead of leaving a trail of more empty promises and unfounded advise, this visitor is remembered as someone who would be welcomed to come again, in fact with a hope that she will come again.

How was she different? I could honestly say she was authentic, nonjudgmental, a good listener, compassionate and fun. All of this is true, but if I wanted to pick one characteristic as the critical game changer I would add another attribute.

What I would say is that she was all of the above framed in the gift of time. She did not make an appointment. She did not check her watch. She came and stayed. When we all got tired she asked what time it was.  Her husband had to call her to see if she was all right because it was now late.

Does time unmeasured, freely given express love that heals?

 

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Memories of Christmas from Childhood-Part Three

This is the third post in a series of three of memories of Christmas from my childhood.

We always tried to keep our Norwegian traditions alive on Christmas Eve. One of these was putting up a sheaf of wheat (we actually only had oats) that had been shaped for this purpose at the time of harvest, wrapped securely, and stacked in a safe place waiting for 3 PM on Christmas Eve.

That is the time that the church bells rang and at this same time the sheaf was secured high on a light pole. It was a special treat for the birds.

It seemed very special to be on a farm, filling mangers with hay, smelling the smells and hearing the sounds that baby Jesus would have heard.

 

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Christmas Memories from Childhood-Part Two

This is the second of three posts about childhood memories of Christmas.

We always had the same thing for supper on Christmas Eve. We call this meal dinner, now, but then dinner was at noon and supper was about 5:30 PM.

On Christmas Eve this meal was a little later because we ate after the cows had been milked and the calves fed. We started with what we called sweet soup. It was hot and had dried fruit in it. We only had one little dish each because the best was yet to come.

The whole house knew we were cooking lutefisk. Some people know it as a slimy, tasteless, trembling mass that damages the surface of your silver coated stainless steel knives and forks. Some people think you can use it to get skunks out from under your porch. But these descriptions are only for people who did not learn, as a small child, that this fish is so special that you only eat it on Christmas Eve.

We always commented on how firm and good it was “this year.” Then we poured melted butter from a small pitcher.  Thankfully, I grew up to be a believer and I still think it is very special to eat this lye soaked cod. I once heard that lutefisk is explained in the Bible as the piece of cod that surpasses understanding.

Then, of course, you grabbed a triangle of lefse.  Mom had made the dough with mashed potatoes and Dad had rolled it thin on a big griddle designed for lefse. Dad was the only one in the family strong enough to roll this dough paper-thin. We always commented on how perfect the lefse was ‘this year” before we spread butter on it. The butter was spread twice as thick as the lefse. Some imitation Norwegians put sugar or bacon on it, but we were original stock so we just used butter.

When we were done eating we moved to the living room and listened to the Christmas story read from the Bible. Then we started opening presents. We usually got needed clothes and maybe a new tablet for school.

Every year Dad said the same thing, “Well, I didn’t think that heifer looked just right. I think I should go out to the barn and check her.” Dad put on his big jacket and off he went.

Before long there was a knock from the inside of the cellar door. When we opened it there stood Santa Clause!!! (Since my mother was a teacher in a one-room school that owned a Santa outfit she took it home with her for Christmas Eve.)

We quickly found some sugar lumps for Santa to give to Rudolph and we asked how his trip was going. Every year my sister and I noticed the same thing. Santa Clause was wearing striped overalls just like Daddy’s. You could see them hanging out just a little bit right above his boots.

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Christmas Memories from Childhood-Part One

This is the first post, in of series of three, of Christmas memories from my childhood.

I didn’t know then that the yearly adventure of getting our Christmas tree would set the standard so high that getting a tree in any other way would never compare. As an adult I have bought a tree from a lot, picked one up from a store and even experimented (very briefly) with an artificial one. All of these choices seemed sad as they were overshadowed by the deeply etched memory of our childhood tradition.

It started when we decided what day we would have this adventure. The excitement built as we counted the days. On the chosen day, we (my father, mother, sister and I) all wore most of the clothes we had because we would be for sure cold and probably wet. It was good to have a warm scarf to put over your stocking cap so that it could wrap around your neck. Two pair of mittens were important and either old snow boots or rubber boots without holes over your shabby shoes and wool socks. (We only wore our new boots and fancy mittens on Sunday.)

As we piled into our car that had years of experience, Dad put the ax, saw, some rope and a couple of planks into the trunk. The planks were for us to wedge under the back wheels when we got stuck in a rut back in the woods (which we always did).

The road to the woods was not too bad. It was only after we were deep into the mostly cleared trail in the pine forest that things got tough. When we heard the back tires spinning and felt the car slip to the side we knew we either had to get the planks out or walk the rest of the way.

I can close my eyes and see it. The snow is clean and crisp; the sun is finding ways to break through with rays of beaming light, the sky has never been more blue and the trees are the deepest green with a frosting of silver.  The air feels cold in your lungs but happy, too.

Dad walked ahead with the ax over his shoulder. We crunched along behind him. His eyes were fixed on the treetops as he scanned for just the right one. We didn’t stop until Dad did. When he found the tree he wanted we, my mother, sister and I, all said the same thing every year. That one won’t work. It is too big and it will be crooked.

Dad smiled and chopped a wedge out of the tree with his ax. He had already studied where he wanted it to fall and the wedge ensured that it would fall in that exact place. He then used the ax to fell the tree. Together we hoisted it to the top of the car and secured it to the fenders with the old ropes from the trunk.

Finding a place to turn around meant backing off the trail, risking rocks and ditches but we always managed to do it. When we got home Dad went to work on the tree. To our amazement, he cut off the top in such a way that when he removed a few branches to make a stem, it was exactly the right height and fit into the tree stand (a wooden cross with a hole in the middle that sat in a milk pail).

When it was placed in the corner of our living room we all said the same thing every year. Dad has done it again. This tree is perfect. As Dad started chopping the now topless tree into firewood we pondered the mystery of how he could find a perfect tree every year and then it was time to string the lights and add the popcorn and tinsel.

 

 

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On Tuesday I Ice Skate…

On Tuesday I Ice Skate…

I have been interested in connecting with a lady who has recently moved back to our area. She had been a significant volunteer ministry leader years ago and now, as a widow, has become a resident of a senior housing complex. Her quick smile, confident affect and energy made me unprepared for learning from her that she is 80 years old and a survivor of a heart attack, stroke and back surgery.

As we talked about her gifts and her available time for service she said, “I can’t help you on Tuesday mornings because every Tuesday morning I ice skate at the Petit Center.” I asked her to repeat this statement to ensure I was hearing correctly. She then said that when she was 62 years old her daughter gave her ice skating lessons as a birthday gift and she has enjoyed it ever since.

Sensing that I was intrigued she confided, “I ask Jesus to skate with me.”

When I asked if I could write about this activity on my blog she said, “Only if you say that this opportunity is open for all seniors. It really helps with balance and posture.” She did acknowledge that she has stopped doing some of the more demanding figures but only because she would not want to fall and dislodge her pacemaker wire.

May god give me grace to live until I die!

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Love Wrapped in Power: a Christmas Prayer

Father in Heaven, We thank you that we can come to you as your children. Thank you that you welcome us and want to us to become familiar with your love and your power.

As we prepare for Christmas, we are confronted by your love. We pray that you will enable us to turn down the volume on all the distractions in our lives and turn up the volume on your coming as a baby to live among us. Because you came, Jesus, we have real life stories that teach us more about the character of God. Because you sent your Holy Spirit we can experience this life being lived through us.

For all of this we are beyond grateful.

As we contemplate you in the manger as a helpless baby, we ask that you give us grace to not leave you there. Thank you that Christmas and Easter are eternally linked. After laying down your life on the Cross you showed us your power by defeating death, our biggest enemy.

May Christmas this year be love wrapped in power.

Thank you that there is nothing I bring to you in prayer that you don’t care about. Thank you that there is nothing I bring to you in prayer that is too hard for you.

We worship you as the God of love and power and pray that we will live today in the carefree joy of parented children.

We ask this in Jesus Name. Amen

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