How to Crash a Family Picnic

My childhood friend is here with me for the weekend. We can do whatever we want except for one commitment. I need to take her to a family picnic where a mother and a daughter are celebrating a 140-year-old birthday. This number is valid as it is a combination party for an 80-year-old mother and a 60-year-old daughter. Those is attendance are extended family from different parts of the country reuniting after more years than easily recognition enables.

After agreeing to take my fiend to this gathering I asked if I should just drop her off or stay. She said she would like me to stay. We looked at each other and the mischief of our childhood was ignited.

She said, “I’ll just tell them you are Mabel’s daughter.”

That seemed OK with me, as Mabel was my mother’s name. It fit for my friend, as Mabel was the name of an Aunt who had died long enough ago to not be the center of attention at this event.

Then I decided to take some risks.

I walked up to one person after another and said, “It’s so good to see you again.” This left only one response, “Yes, you, too.”

(Feel free to use this strategy to crash a family picnic. Just make sure your mother has the same name as one of the relatives.)

PS. Just when I thought this experience was an example of how everybody responds in a social setting I ran into a surprise.

As this picnic was wrapping up a lady came up to me and said, “I don’t know who you are.”

I responded, “I am Mabel’s daughter.”

The lady asked, “Who is Mabel?”

I said, “She is my mother.”

This prompted, “I have no idea who Mabel is and I don’t remember ever meeting you.”

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Faith through Childhood Eyes

Roselyn

I am thankful for a childhood faith that delighted in the wonder of God’s creation, trusted Jesus for anything and wanted to live for Him.

As a child I always knew where to find God. One of his favorite places was back in our woods. I would go there by myself, sit on the brown carpet of pine needles and listen as the trees whispered to each other. It was good background noise that made it real easy to hear God.

Another place I could always find him was in our church during the week. I rode my bicycle to the church and walked through the big doors. The church was never locked. It was quiet there, too. I would walk up past the pews until I got to the alter rail. The step that you kneeled on was like soft velvet. You could put your hands on the rail and pray. A big cross was hanging so that if you looked up you would see it. It was a good reminder of why we loved Jesus. He talked to me there.

That church was not a good place to drink water. The water had a yellow color to it and a funny smell. We knew, as children, that it had something to do with the graves being so close to the church kitchen but no grown up would ever admit that was the case.

The highlight of my year was Bible Camp. We spent all day learning about God, hearing stories of missionaries and singing so loudly that the walls could hardly handle the sound. When it got dark we built a campfire and sang some more. Sometimes there would be some boats that would go into the middle of the lake and make a circle. The kids in the boat would sing an echo to our songs from shore. That was one of the times when you knew that if Jesus wanted you to go and die in Africa you would be glad to do it.

On Wednesday night our parents could come and visit. We were glad they came but we tried to act to them as though it didn’t matter.

When you got a little older you could wash dishes for one week at camp and then get to go the next week free as a camper. It seemed like heaven would be a place where camp didn’t ever end.

I could write a long time about my faith through childhood eyes.

Now I am writing this blog called faith through aging eyes.

Do I still delight in the wonder of God, trust Jesus for anything and want to live for him?

Jesus said to Peter, “I have prayed for you that your faith does not fail.”

I’m going to find a quiet place where I can hear Jesus pray that for me.

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If It Doesn’t’ Hurt

How many of us are looking for a pain free life? Is a pain free path the one that will take us where we really want to go?

I am working with a personal trainer with the goal of getting my body in shape for what may be unexpected stressors on an upcoming hiking trip. Recently, after she demonstrated one of my workout positions, I replicated her stance. As she watched me she asked me if what I was dong was hurting me. I proudly said that it was not. “Then,” she replied, “you are not doing it right.”

I tried repositioning my body and then said, “It hurts now.” My trainer said, “Good.”

Is the Holy Spirit guiding me into a place of spiritual pain so that I can build strength and endurance?

Am I willing to put myself in an uncomfortable position so that God can put Himself on display?

Am I willing to work in the shadows so that the body of Christ can be unified?

Do I care more about His gain or my pain?

Jesus told Peter that when he was younger he could do what he wanted but when he is older he would be going where he didn’t want to go.

Does faith through aging eyes embrace suffering?

If it doesn’t hurt could it be that we are not doing it right?

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I’m Glad God Already Knows

The news this week is shocking us by revealing that every phone call we make and every email we send is recorded and stored. The whole idea seems to not be possible in a country where personal freedom and privacy are valued.

Personally, I don’t know if I believe it. With my limited grasp of what technology can do I can’t imagine finding enough time or space to keep this kind of record on everybody. Then I wondered if anyone would be interested in the details of my life. As I reflect, I remember some things that I really don’t want to be a part of a public record. Things that have been forgiven but, with the wisdom of a rear view mirror, I would not do them at all.

But then, comes the comfort that God already knows.

When he views my life, there will be no surprises. There will be nothing that He has not already encountered and found the blood of Jesus to be powerful enough to wash it away and leave me white as snow.

It is a mystery too wonderful to understand. I stand amazed in the Presence. I rest in the peace of knowing that my debts have been paid in full.

May God give wisdom to our national leaders as they work to protect us.

May those who live in fear know God’s grace.

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My Eyes Saw Only One

There must have been at least 60 kindergarten children singing and speaking at the concert in the school gymnasium this morning. Folding chairs had been placed theater style so the parents and grandparents with their zoom lens cameras could view the stage. But I only saw one because there was one in the group that is mine. She is the one I love.

I watched the expression on her face. I smiled as she articulated every word. I sat proud as she followed all the directions. I felt joy as she released the energy within her and belted out the songs. I grasped a deep sense of belonging as I realized that she knew I was watching and she was glad I had come.

I want to tell God tonight that I am glad that He is watching me. I am glad He can say, “She is mine.” I am glad He can say, “She is the one I love.” We know, of course, that God is able to love everyone, but that does not diminish the fact that He is especially fond of me. Each of us that know Him can genuinely say that we are His favorite!

I am glad that He takes joy in my singing. I am glad that He can’t take His eyes off me. I am glad He is watching me and cares about my every move.

“The eyes of the Lord range to and fro to strengthen those whose hearts are fully committed to Him.” 2 Chronicles 16:9

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My Amazing New Bush

My Amazing Bush

My Amazing Bush

As the landscaper and I surveyed the work that needed to be done we stopped and looked at this “hopeless” bush. The landscaper was gentle but as he asked about the age of the bush and pointed out how much of it was dead, it became obvious that his recommendation was going to be to “chain it.” (I was learning that this is a term used when the root system is too big to pull so you take a chain saw and cut the bush off as close to the ground as you can. Then you can mulch over it and forget it ever existed.)

I, however, was not quick to let this bush go. I think, in part, because I remember buying it with some money I inherited from my Aunt about 25 years ago.Scrambling to save it, I asked the landscaper how it would look if he just cut out the dead parts. He thought for a moment and then a big grin crossed his face. He said, “It would look like me.”

I immediately knew what he meant as this landscaper is no stranger to me. He is a good friend whom I love and respect.The past nine years have been an experience of deep and painful pruning as he served prison time for a felony conviction. I am sure there were seasons of that time in prison when this friend wondered if God was looking at him and thinking “chain it.” But this is not the God whose we are and whom we serve. The gentle skillful landscaper is now a trophy of God’s grace. The pruning has made him beautiful and given him a story to tell.

God has had many reasons to say, when watching my life, let’s
“chain it.”

But Jesus took that sentence.

My landscaper friend, this bush and me all stand on level ground.

We are pruned, beautiful and free.

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Maybe I Just Don’t Realize It

My grandchildren, ages 4 and 6, thought it would be fun to hide in our house so that when their mother picked them up she would not be able to find them.

One potential hiding place was an empty ottoman that was big enough for one of the girls to curl up in. I warned that we could not put the cover on tightly as there would be no air to breathe.

Trying to convince me not to worry about that, the older one said it would be OK not to have air in the box because she doesn’t breathe when she is sleeping. When I explained that she did breathe quietly while she was sleeping she said, “Maybe I just don’t realize it.”

As I processed this “discovery” on her part, I wondered what lesson this held for me.

I wonder how many essentials for life are so constant that I don’t realize the grace of their empowerment.

How much do I realize that I live because of the breath of God?

I sing the old song, “Holy Spirit Breathe on Me.” I read the scriptures that explain to me that the Holy Spirit is the breath of God that resides in me.

When I am hard pressed today by encounters that “knock the wind out of me” do I realize that the Holy Spirit is quietly breathing in and through me?

Can I rest in this strength?

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And He Cried

I heard a story this week told by a friend from India who has served as a missionary there, in her home country, for many years. As we talked she was reminded of a time, decades ago, when some refugees were given an opportunity to walk from Burma to Calcutta.

The plan for this escape was very demanding. Protective sites were set up every 20 miles. Preservation of life was dependent on completing the 20 miles each day, as there was not refuge between these sites. The tiger infested jungle was a death sentence after dark.

One family with small children faced a chilling challenge. The mother developed a high fever and was too sick to walk. The father then carried her but the weight of carrying his wife slowed his pace. Together, this couple realized that they would not make the 20 miles to safety.

The mother asked the father to leave her on the grass. She said we can’t both die. Someone needs to live and take care of the children (who had run ahead). The father said he couldn’t leave her but the wife insisted.
Finally, he laid her on the grass and ran to catch up with the children.

His heart wouldn’t let him leave her there so he turned around and came back. She again insisted he go. After several attempts to change his wife’s mind the man left her and eventually arrived in Calcutta with the children.

He sought out the husband of the missionary telling me this story and told the story to him.

The grief stricken man told the story and he cried.

As I waited for my storyteller to continue she said nothing more.

Finally, I said, “Is that the end of the story?”

She said, “Yes.”

Somehow, as Americans, we think everything should have a Cinderella ending. I wanted to hear that an angel had picked the mother up and that she was waiting, healed, in Calcutta.

I wonder where I got these expectations? What do I do with John the Baptist being beheaded? (He was great in the eyes of Jesus.) How do I reconcile Jesus having no place to grieve this death because he had compassion on the crowds?

The end of this story from my friend in India is, “And he cried.”

Is this the end of the story?

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When Grandmother Prays

I know a grandmother who prayed believing. She always said, “When God answers our prayers.” She never said, “If God answers our prayers.” She would pray for years for one person. The prayer had the same faith and passion after many years as it did the first time it was prayed.

Her children knew they had been prayed for daily even starting before they were born. Her grandson inherited this blessing. This grandson grew up embracing his grandmother’s faith. As a boy of 5 he dumped his entire piggy bank into a basket for missions. When this boy was 10 he led his two best friends to faith in Jesus Christ. But then it seemed, to some observers, that college years shadowed this grandson’s faith. He would confess, when asked, but his life did not reflect the same passion.

Some worried.

His grandmother prayed.

But then, this grandmother died. The grandson was 24 years old. His attention was on his career. He didn’t have time to nurture his spiritual life.

A couple of years later he fell in love with a girl who did not acknowledge Jesus as God. She was from another country and embraced another faith. After a personal struggle this girl told the grandson their relationship couldn’t continue until she decided who God was. This news broke his heart.

But now, there is someone new in his life. This girl has reignited his faith. They attend church together. They have quiet times together. This girl believes God has sent her to this grandson.

I wish the grandmother could have lived to see her prayers answered.

But then, it really would not have mattered. I am sure she died believing that when God answered her prayers her grandson would be a trophy of God’s grace. Her faith did not need to see evidence.

Who are you praying for? Are your expectations based on when or on if God answers?

Is there someone praying for you?

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Discovering God’s Handwriting

Besta I love you

Besta I love you

We were entering the Kindergarten classroom that was prepared with written messages on paper tablecloths, plates of cookies and boxes of juice.

This reception followed the concert we had just attended.

My reason for coming was standing next to her written messages. She was playing the role of an adult host telling those of us who were her family to sit anywhere. As I bent down to tell her how proud I was of her my eyes caught the message on the tablecloth beside her. My heart jumped as I recognized that she had written, “Besta, I love you” in preparation for my coming.

“Lord, open my eyes to your messages of love to me today. Help me to recognize that you have written, “I love you” all over the story of my life.

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