“I will not give sleep to my eyes or slumber to my eyelids, until I find a place for the Lord, a dwelling place for the Mighty One of Jacob.”
When I read these verses from Psalm 132 today I wondered if they are instructional to my struggle with consuming grief. Am I giving grief so much space in my heart that I don’t have a comfortable place for the Holy Spirit to dwell?
Would it be better to wrestle with God until He can stretch out in my heart rather than me stretching out on my bed in despair?
I welcome your thoughts
Silverstrands 
For me, I know that the Holy Spirit can and will deliver. I have to let Him work in me in His time, not mine. I confess my pain. and I ask G-d,” What am I supposed to learn from this? How can I handle this?” Proverbs 3:5-6 encourages us to lean not on [our] own understanding, but acknowledge G-d in ALL things and the result is that He will direct us. This requires patience, but it also requires faith. Faith in knowing that He WILL comfort, and direct. Humbling myself in the arms of my Heavenly Father is the only place I can go for ultimate release. That is how I am coping with my grief and I hope this helps you too.
In dealing with my grief, I have to lean on the knowledge that G-d will answer me in His time, not mine. I tell Him of my immense pain, and then I ask:”How do I deal with this constant distress? What am I supposed to learn from this?”
Proverbs 3:5-6 encourages us to not rely on our own understanding and to acknowledge G-d in ALL things, and the promise is that He WILL direct our paths. This requires me to be patient and have faith that He will answer me. How comforting to know that with patience and faith on my part, I have a Heavenly Father that will see me through anything. Even my deepest distress. He has not failed me thus far. Read and meditate on Philippians 4:6-7. Peace will come.